Ep. 282: Why some of us avoid love

Written By Stuart McNish

Guest: Areej Siddiqui, couples and family therapist

“She loves me, she loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not” is a game played by someone while plucking petals off of a flower.

The petal supposedly represents the truth between the object of their affection loving them or not.

On Valentine’s Day, it’s not unusual to want to know you are loved and that you do love. However, as family and couples therapist Areej Siddiqui says, “Love is not always embraced by everyone. In fact, there are people who are love avoidant.” In other words, they choose to remain single.

The factors are complex but are linked to the primary caregiver early in life. Siddiqui says, “There may have been a negative relationship; there may have been a smothering relationship; there may have been an emotionally vacant relationship.” All are factors that could lead a child to be reluctant, suspicious or afraid of intimacy.

We invited Areej Siddiqui to join us for a Conversation That Matters about love, our need to connect and how to get past avoidance.

 
Featured
Ep. 527: A.I. for Literacy: The Reading Roadmap
Career, Social issues
education, learning, schools, schooling, literacy, reading, writing, artificial intelligence, AI
Ep. 527: A.I. for Literacy: The Reading Roadmap
Career, Social issues
education, learning, schools, schooling, literacy, reading, writing, artificial intelligence, AI

We invited David Chalk to join us for a Conversation That Matters about the challenges he lived with for more than 60 years, what it means to him to now be able to read, and how he wants to help others to read, through his course called “AI Literacy, The Reading Roadmap.”

Career, Social issues
education, learning, schools, schooling, literacy, reading, writing, artificial intelligence, AI
Ep. 524: Do Not Ignore Your Mortality
Health and wellness, Social issues
death, funeral, life planning, inheritance, estate planning
Ep. 524: Do Not Ignore Your Mortality
Health and wellness, Social issues
death, funeral, life planning, inheritance, estate planning

We invited Greg Barnsdale, the author of “Do Not Ignore Your Mortality,” to join us for a Conversation That Matters about healthy and practical planning for our own mortality.

Health and wellness, Social issues
death, funeral, life planning, inheritance, estate planning
Ep. 513: British Columbia’s Lacklustre Prosperity (w/ David Williams, Business Council of BC)
Social issues
near death experience, near death, gun violence, Vancouver, Yaletown
Ep. 513: British Columbia’s Lacklustre Prosperity (w/ David Williams, Business Council of BC)
Social issues
near death experience, near death, gun violence, Vancouver, Yaletown

We invited David Williams, the Vice President of Policy at the Business Council of British Columbia, to join us for a Conversation That Matters about the factors that are driving down prosperity in BC and what we can do to reverse this trend.

Social issues
near death experience, near death, gun violence, Vancouver, Yaletown
Ep. 512: To the Edge of Death and Back
Social issues, Vancouver and British Columbia
near death experience, near death, gun violence, Vancouver, Yaletown
Ep. 512: To the Edge of Death and Back
Social issues, Vancouver and British Columbia
near death experience, near death, gun violence, Vancouver, Yaletown

We invited Paul Dragan to join us for a Conversation That Matters about his incredible journey to the darkness of death and back.

Social issues, Vancouver and British Columbia
near death experience, near death, gun violence, Vancouver, Yaletown
Stuart McNish
Previous

Ep. 283: Can we trust public information about food and diet?
Next

Ep. 281: Governing for the public interest